Co-sleeping and Child Led Weaning at Age Four.
Another day of being alone. Thankfully Tyler will be off this weekend, because I’m not sure how much more I can take.
He came home from work at 4 in the morning, then slept until 1. At 1 he got up and we ran to the store to arrange for the appraiser to come tomorrow to price tile floors for the kitchen and bathroom. (That’s what the in-laws are getting us for Christmas!) It’s estimated at $2,800 including the tiles and installation. We’d never be able to afford that on our own, and though I don’t think tile laying is very hard (I did it once!) Tyler doesn’t even want to try. $2,800!! That’s like how much Tyler makes in a month. No joke.
As soon as we got done at the flooring store we had to come straight home so Tyler could get in his car and leave for work.
Poor Rosie, she cried for two hours after. She waited all morning for him to wake up, and then we drug her to a boring store only for him to come home and leave without even coming inside.
My sweet Rosie is growing up so quickly. Last night she asked me to move her bed into her room and out of our room. Then she went to bed in there all by herself! She loved it, she slept in there all night. She spent several hours in there playing by herself on her bed this afternoon too.
Rosie never slept in a crib, we just co-slept, then when Ada came along I let Rosie pick out a toddler bed to sleep in if she didn’t want to be squished up with the baby. That was when Rosie was 3. She loved her new little bed and slept in it (in our room) with no problem. Now she’s sleeping in her own room.
People always say, "Ooooh, you’ll never get them out of your bed!"
WTFever. I loved sniffing her head all night long as a baby and toddler. Now she sleeps on her own, there was no struggle at all. No tears, no bribery. Just a little girl proclaiming how grown up she is, feeling very self confident.
Just goes to show that it really does work–if you meet your baby’s needs constantly they will eventually learn true independence and it will come with self confidence. So much better than a crying baby or toddler being forced to do something they aren’t ready for just because silly American culture says they need to be independent…
It’s interesting that it took Rosie three years before she was ready to sleep on her own. I wonder how Ada will be. I think Ada might be ready to sleep on her own sooner because she doesn’t like to snuggle as much as Rosie did. (Well, Rosie still does love to snuggle!) Ada will roll away from me at night, compared to baby Rosie who liked to sleep plastered in my arm pit.
I sometimes wonder what will happen if I get one of those babies who just likes to sleep in their own space from the start. I think that would make me kind of sad!
I can’t believe how old Rosie is suddenly. I might cry thinking of it.
She’s outgrown co-sleeping, but she still hasn’t outgrown nursing. Child led weaning has been an interesting journey, and really not all that easy. I never imagined she would still be nursing at this point, either.
Our nursing relationship has changed so much over the past 4.5 years. Now nursing is just a way we connect and snuggle every night for a few minutes before bed. I can’t say that I enjoy it anymore, but I’ve come this far on the journey so I’ll stick it out until the end.
Society has all kinds of misconceptions and prejudices against nursing, forget breastfeeding a preschooler. I guess society and their opinions can kiss my skinny a$$…breastfeeding and child led weaning both have all kinds of wonderful benefits–emotional and physical. There really are no negative sides of it when you just look at the facts, there are only loads of positives. People like to gasp and proclaim how they can’t imagine nursing a FOUR YEAR OLD, OMG! But you know what? I couldn’t imagine nursing someone else’s four year old either. I’ve nursed her every single day of her life, weaning is a very gradual process. It’s not shocking to me, I’ve done it every day for four years…
Anytime a little bit of societal worry creeps in I think of other countries, where child led weaning is the norm. I like knowing that there’s nothing I have to do–again, no tears or forcing or trauma. Just enjoying it for what it is in this moment, and in the end when she’s done and that part of our relationship has ended it will be with happiness and only that.
Ada doesn’t seem to be glued to my breasts like Rosie was, so I wonder if she will nurse for such a long time. I believe breastmilk should be main source of nutrients for babies until 12 months, so I don’t do baby food or feed Ada meals. I let her eat little bits of lots of stuff, but only after nursing and not enough solids to stuff her full. It’s important, I want my children to have healthy guts and healthy immune systems. She’ll have her entire life to indulge on solid foods, 12 months of mostly breastmilk isn’t so long in comparison. After 12 months I do baby led eating/child lead weaning. I do still encourage nursing and offer often if baby is distracted because I absolutely believe babies shouldn’t wean before 24 months.
It worked perfectly with Rosie–she wasn’t too interested in meals of solid foods until around 18 months. She just picked at food up until that point. Now, of course, she eats normally. She wasn’t picky for awhile, but now she’s going through some phase…*sigh*….I’m continuing to offer a wide range of foods outside of her few favorites and hoping that the phase will one day end. At least her favorites are things like peanut butter and jelly on whole wheat, it could be worse.
It humors me how there are so many parenting debates. I say just keep loving your babies unconditionally and use the tools and intuition nature gives you. It’s that easy.
(Don’t leave me a zillion notes about special needs kids, those are an obvious exception, I know.)
Look at my girls! Hah.
Rosie isn’t into being photographed these days, unless she’s making some kind of goofy face.Ada on the other hand is easier torture.
Look! She has only one top front tooth. The other has no signs of appearing any time soon.
I love her so much.
Every time I stare at her, nurse her, sniff her head, listen to her giggle…I just want to have more. More babies, more happy squishy goodness, enough to fill a bus.
Rosie agrees, she tells me all the time how she loves having a baby and asks when we can have another. Maybe next year we can work on that Rosie, first I have to enjoy every second of the baby I have right now.
Plus, I can’t have too many babies..my Gus cat will get jealous.