Welcoming Baby Ada.
The first part to this, along with her birth video, is in the previous entry.
For those who asked, Ada is pronounced like the letter A at the beginning. A-duh. Or Aid-ah, if you’d rather…
Everything is going so smoothly this time, in comparison to the horrible time I had after Rosie’s birth.
Baby Ada knows how to nurse so well! She latched on shortly after birth and didn’t stop nursing voluntarily for almost the entire first 24 hours. My milk came in yesterday, and today I’ve got enough milk to drown an army. As a result Ada has spent most of the morning pooping, which is a good thing.
I still plan on trying elimination communication. As soon as I’m not as sore and tired! Already Ada waits to pee until her diaper is off. Instead of holding her over the potty I’ve just been taking off her diaper and letting her lay on the prefold to go. That way we can get a better sense of her cues right before she goes, you know?
So far she’s only peed once in the diaper, the rest of the times were when the diaper was off. I took off her diaper to let her pee yesterday evening, and then put it back on and we went to bed. I checked twice during the night and it was still dry. This morning as soon as I took it off she peed a huge flood! She was gulping milk all night long, I was kind of wondering where all of that was going…
Every time she has pooped it’s been as soon as her diaper was taken off also, except for just now when she poo’ed a bit in her sleep. I waited a minute, because I didn’t want to wake her, and finally decided to take her diaper off and change it. As soon as I took it off she was wide awake and she laid there and looked around, then pooped out all the rest.
I’m really excited that it seems as if we’re on the right track here. She does indeed have a sense of natural infant hygiene.
Rosie is a bit jealous, which is to be expected. She loves the baby a lot. She wants to help with EVERYTHING. It’s already a bit of a production to keep the baby diapered/pottied, fed, and clothed in those first few days. It’s even more complicated with an opinionated 3 year old helper!
Earlier while the baby was pooping Rosie wanted me to lay down and rest and she wanted to hold the baby over the prefold and wipe her butt. With her help we managed to get poop in a lot of places, like all over the bed, but oh well. Hah.
Rosie’s other problem is that she’s bored. I’m not up and cleaning the house, it’s cluttered, things are getting disorganized, and Rosie wants to do our usual routines but can’t. Tyler is trying hard–he’s actually being a real parent and I’m totally impressed. But he’s not really on top of keeping things picked up…like toys and trash and dirty dishes. I’m trying to not let it bother me. Next week, when I’m healed a bit more, Baby A will be tucked away in the sling and I’ll go through the house with a trash bag. I’ve got my laundry, dishes, and chores organized enough that I’ll be able to catch up over a couple week’s time and just get back to maintaining again. Thank God for that household organizing binder I made last year!
So far Ada seems much calmer than Rosie. It’s difficult to compare though, because of the huge differences between their birth and first few days of life. At this point in Rosie’s life we were still trapped at the hospital and I had lost too much blood to move, and we had a million non-stop visitors. Rosie was in the nursery and wouldn’t latch on to nurse, and my milk didn’t even come in until 3-4 days after she was born.
This time is so much better! I’m tired and sore, and the after pains are killing me…but that’s it. I’m fully alert and functional! I can walk and pee without crying. The baby has only left my arms for short periods of time, to be held by Tyler or by visitors who were only allowed to stay for a little while. I even took her back from Tyler’s Granny when she was crying and rooting around to nurse and his Granny didn’t want to give her back.
It’s so much better to be in our own home as opposed to the hospital and then my in-laws’ house. Aaaah.
I’m so in love with my sweet new baby! I still feel like I could wake up and this will have all been a dream.
Ok now for the rest of the pictures, which is the continuation of the previous entry!
The midwife’s wonderful assistant took the pictures with me in them, the ones of the birth. I have some amazing pictures of her head coming out, but I think the video already fully covered that!
Pushing, in our bedroom.
After the baby was born we left the placenta attached for several hours so that every bit of the blood could go through the cord and into the baby where it belongs. As a result Ada is very, very pink! She’s got all of the blood in her body nature intended her to have. I had wanted to do this with Rosie, but the hospital’s idea of “wait until the cord stops pulsing” apparently means just cut it after about five minutes…before the placenta had even detached and delivered.
With Rosie’s birth something went wrong and the placenta ripped into pieces and got stuck inside of me. I don’t know exactly what happened, but the retained placenta and resulting gushing blood happening again were my main fears this time. I was freaking out about it in the bathtub during the beginning of the pushing phase of Ada’s birth.
I’m so thankful that my midwife is competent, patient, trusting, and most of all knowledgeable. This time, after the baby came out my bleeding was normal. The placenta detached but couldn’t come out all the way, just like last time! I must make sticky placentas.
The midwife was reassuring me the whole time that everything was fine and not to worry. I’d already taken some herbs in tincture form (you can see in the video when the assistant gives them to me on a spoon) to help with blood loss and release of the placenta, just in case. When the placenta wasn’t coming out properly I had a shot of pitocin in my leg, also just in case.
Then the midwife was able to gently work it out. She said there was a trailing piece of membranes that had stuck inside. It all came out intact though! I didn’t lose a large amount of blood this time, either.
The only downside was that the trailing membranes caused the edge of my cervix to prolapse a little. The midwife very gently put it back where it was supposed to go, and hopefully it will be fine with a lot of pelvic floor exercises. That was my only complication, and I’m a little freaked out by it, but because of all the patience in handling things it was minimal rather than rushed and catastrophic like with Rosie’s birth.
If you’re interested in these sorts of things, here’s a 4 minute video of the midwife examining Ada’s placenta and explaining everything about it. Baby A was still attached at this point.