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  1. kristen says:

    hugs hugs hugs

  2. Anny says:

    You’re right. There’s no advice to give, but my friend struggled through a very similar situation with her youngest boy. He didn’t sleep through the night for YEARS, waking repeatedly and screaming. It was heartbreaking, as they tried everything as well. Eventually, it just settled down. Nothing actually changed, but he got older and was able to meet his own needs better, we guess.

  3. christy says:

    she is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!! definitely a genious child and with that comes those crazy quirks like NO SLEEP. good luck, momma!!!!!

  4. Jenni says:

    :-( Fortunately my 13 month old *typically* sleeps in his crib all night. Although he ends up in our bed more often than I’d like. But his naps during the day? 20 minutes. That’s not long enough to get anything done. I’m so worried about how it’ll be once our next one arrives in April. I don’t think I’m quite as exhausted as you sound, but I definitely feel for you!

  5. Catherine says:

    Oh, I know what you’re going through!!

    My Giselle slept-at most-4 hours per day for the first 5 years of her life. The other 20, she was either screaming or busy. She had horrible dark circles under her eyes, but just would not slow down and sleep. The only thing that made her sleep was when she was in the baby swing, going at top speed. She would fall asleep nursing, but wake up as soon as I moved, just like Ada. The pediatrician kept saying, “Oh, she’ll grow out of it.” and did nothing. It was a nightmare.

    Finally, we figured out that she had milk allergies. Once she was off milk, she got a bit better, but to this day she still doesn’t sleep much. However, she survived (she’ll be 14 this month!), I survived, and she’s turned out to be a fascinating, wonderful daughter. Just like Ada will be. Hang in there, it’ll get better.

  6. Sarah says:

    Noah was like this – not in the smarts dept at all – but definitely in the never sleeping dept. I remember calling my mother in law to ask when the baby would finally sleep for some solid hours (apparently my husband didn’t sleep through the night for years either). Noah was about 10 months old and had JUST slept for three hours straight for the first time ever. She said my husband was 4. I thought I was going to die.
    I was exhausted all the time. He started sleeping through the night at 3.5 and the memory of the sleeplessness has faded somewhat.
    I’m sure it would help if day-to-day child rearing was soooo dependent on you. As our lifestyle has changed over the last year I’ve become more primary child care person. It’s exhausting and frustrating and leads to me being less of the parent I want to be. It’s really really hard. Give yourself some credit. This is REALLY hard. Before this year we’d spent some time where I was primary full time outside-of-home worker and it kicked Josh’s butt to be the primary parent. It was reassuring. It wasn’t kicking his butt because he was the guy (so somehow incompetent as society would argue) but because it’s HARD.
    What is the community like in your area? Other young families? I think the isolation is the hardest.

  7. Faith says:

    You probably don’t want any more advice on anything, but regarding the oral aversion issues, it could be really helpful to enlist the help of an occupational therapist to work with Ada once or twice a week. Early intervention is important with severe aversion issues and if she’s expressing hunger, I’d say that the issue is severe enough for intervention. I have a sister with this issue and unfortunately, the later you try to correct the problem, the harder it is. Even with a healthy, intelligent mind, the aversions can become so strong that even as an adult the person has really poor nutrition because of their aversions. An OT can work with Ada and use techniques to help desensitize the mouth and face and gradually re-teach her to accept sensory experiences that may be really uncomfortable for her now. It is important for parents to realize the distinction between picky eaters and children who have an aversion to certain textures, and I think you’ve made the distinction. The earlier you intervene, the easier it is to help your child overcome these issues. The OT can also give you guidance as a parent on the best ways to help Ada get through the choking, gagging, vomiting episodes which is often when it’s easiest to throw in the towel and let your child survive on yogurt and applesauce (I’m speaking from first hand experience). Good luck! And get yourself some me time! There are lots of resources out there that can help you get an hour to yourself one day a week. That hour goes a long way!

  8. Susannah says:

    De-lurking once again to say I definitely think Ada is a genius. No, seriously. My husband read that smart babies/children sleep less and function just fine (as opposed to babies who sleep less and are therefore a mess). Between that, the early walking, early talking, puzzles(!?), seriously, your child is super smart. My now 9-month-old baby didn’t sleep well for the first couple of months. I was trying to be all attachment parent, co-sleeping, Dr. Sears follower, etc. but I figured out early on that my child was one of those babies who actually slept better away from me, in a crib, in his own room. And a fan for white noise is a MUST because he wakes up at every single noise. Thankfully he is a fantastic sleeper now (usually), but he absolutely will NOT sleep with me. I’ve tried it when guests are in town or on nights where he’s having a rough time, and it just doesn’t work. I know that’s not your issue, so I’m not making a suggestion, just sharing my story!

    I hope you survive these sleepless months! I am sure she’ll grow out of it someday. I just hope for your sake that it’s sooner than later! Just think, someday when she’s older you can put her to work cleaning the kitchen and folding the laundry late at night while the rest of you go to bed, then she can wake up early and have breakfast ready for you when you get out of bed! Wishful thinking….

    Oh, I have a food suggestion – there’s a brand of yogurt called Fage. I usually see it fat-free, but they make a full fat version as well. You can buy a big tub of it in plain flavor and maybe add some vanilla and agave nectar or something so Ada will like it. (I think they sell single-serving flavored ones, too, but I find that too expensive). Anyway, the reason I suggest it is that it’s SUPER high in protein and very filling compared to other similar Greek-style yogurts (I ate it all the time while I was pregnant, and now my baby likes it, too). Maybe a nice big serving of that before bed would make her less hungry during the night? Since she’s sensitive to texture, she might not like how thick it is… but I thought I’d mention it!

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