Dairy is the culprit.
After about a week of strictly dairy free I cheated. My sister’s birthday cake on Sunday night had icing made with milk. I also ate a few cookies made with milk that Tyler brought home, and some artificially flavored popcorn that had whey at the bottom of the ingredient list.
Yeah, fail. Shush.
I felt fine on Monday morning. Then Monday night I had cramps all night long and a horrible back ache. My nose wouldn’t stop running, which could be coincidental. Not sure about that one.
Yesterday, Tuesday, I had cramps and a lot of poop. I’ve noticed before that I have a day’s delayed reaction to milk products, so this fits perfectly. I get sick right away if I eat fresh milk, like white cheeses or ice cream, but with cooked milk or small amounts it seems to take a good 24-48 hours to get to the bottom of my system, where it screws things up. Why? I don’t know, but that’s the way I work. I’ve always had really slow digestion so I’m not surprised I would have a delayed reaction.
Here’s the worst part to me.
Ada had been having these horrible headaches multiple times a week. Like migraines that land her in bed sobbing.
I was freaking out, unable to figure out the cause. It’s so sad to see her in that much pain and not be able to help.
Ada is allergic to milk, but we’d been letting her have milk in some small amounts like a piece of candy here and there or in chicken tenders if we went out to eat. I thought it was ok because she wasn’t having the vomiting, diarrhea, or constipation it used to cause.
She’s still nursing a little. Just for a minute in the morning and a few minutes before bed. (Child led weaning!) Dairy goes through breast milk.
During the week and some days I had absolutely no dairy Ada had NO HEADACHES! She had no dairy either, obviously since I wasn’t buying anything with dairy for us, and it wasn’t in my milk.
Then yesterday at the same time I got belly cramps she got a migraine and spent the rest of the night in bed in the dark periodically crying loudly in pain. :(
A friend told me her son also had migraines from dairy. It’s like an allergic response of sorts.
That cannot be a coincidence. Ada and I are a lot alike when it comes to digestive issues. She also has a delayed reaction to traces of milk. Ugh. So unfair that I passed that on to her.
I did food allergy testing a few years ago and came up allergic to milk, but only mildly. I must have given Ada a milk allergy gene. I feel horrible. Tyler, Rosie, and Henry aren’t bothered by milk at all.
I feel relieved to know for sure that the culprit is milk. But dang it, why is milk so tasty? I love milk and dairy products. However I do not love cramps, pooping my brains out, or seeing my child writhe in pain from horrible headaches.
Since we are allergic to the milk protein, Lactaid does no good. It’s not a lactose intolerance issue. Actually when I did the 23 and Me DNA testing it showed that I am not lactose intolerant. Ironic, right?
No more milk it is! Except I stupidly ate a piece of Tyler’s dessert pizza from Papa John’s last night that probably had milk in it. I wasn’t thinking. I’m going to have to be more careful. We might be sick tonight or tomorrow from that, and after it’s past NO MORE MILK!
It’s not that overwhelming to me considering we’ve been dairy free for about two years with Ada already. I can tell you exactly which fast food places and restaurants have reliable dairy-free options. I know all about cooking with alternatives. I make muffins and waffles with almond milk! The secret to subbing almond milk is adding more than the recipe calls for. Go by texture (runny enough vs. too thick) instead of measurement. Chocolate chip cookies with coconut oil instead of butter come out good too! I cook with coconut oil instead of butter a lot actually, like in the skillet when I make eggs.
So, dairy free forever it is, friends.