I’m not sure what to write.
Where should I begin?
I don’t think I can tell the long story right now, but…
This morning I talked to a lady who visited Igor’s orphanage in February. She talked to Igor a lot while she was there. He told her that his mom is disabled and cannot care for him. (Igor has told us in the past they were in a bad car accident when he was little.)
Igor says that his mom didn’t want him to be hosted last summer, so he spent time with her. Igor told the lady from the agency that his mom says if he finds a suitable family she will relinquish her rights and allow him to be adopted.
Igor told them that he very much wishes to be adopted. He’s seen a lot of his friends get adopted over the past year, kids from the host program.
So here’s what we have to do:
1) Find out if his mom will actually relinquish her rights. I think we’ll need the help of a Ukrainian facilitator to do that.
2) If she relinquishes her rights then Igor will go on the Ukrainian adoption registry. That means he can only be adopted by other Ukrainians. By law he has to be on that registry for 14 months. (If a Ukrainian family tries to adopt him he can say yes or no.)
3) After 14 months we can adopt him.
While he’s in the 14 month waiting period we can begin the paperwork and everything I think.
In the mean time, he should be able to be hosted this summer!
There’s only one unknown–the US Embassy made this ridiculous random rule that kids who have been hosted more than three times can no longer get visas. Igor has already been hosted more than three times.
The agency told me that they would probably be able to ask special permission for this rule to be overridden in the case of Igor since we are pursuing his adoption, but there are no promises.
I need to call them and find out more tomorrow–where exactly to go from here. The first thing we have to do is fill out a hosting/adoption application to work with the agency. I think Tyler and I are going to do that tonight.
Tyler is very, very excited.
I’m terrified that nothing will work out, but we can’t not start down this road. We’ve long since passed the point of turning back, you know? Igor just keeps coming to us even after we’ve lost him. It’s insane the tiny details that have fallen in to place so far in order to get us to this point. Unbelievable.
That alone should give me faith that all things are possible, right? Or at least that we’re where we are supposed to be right now, this second, doing what we’re meant to be doing.
“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.” –Rumi