Igor loves that his roommate is letting him borrow the phone to Skype with us. He doesn’t say much on Skype, he just wants to look at me.
The other day I let Rosie Skype with him while I was getting Henry to sleep and Igor said, “Call back when this Mom is here, ok?”
He’s so cute.
It’s funny, I mean you don’t typically think of an eleven year old boy from halfway around the world as being so lovable, but I promise you all the top of his head is just as kissable and sweet smelling as one of my own kids.
The date to get his visa should be this week sometime. I am SO NERVOUS.
I’m praying my heart out, and hoping, and wishing, and praying some more. They have to give him his visa.
The whole reason this rule was created in the first place is because last summer another family refused to return their host child. They messed up things for so many kids and families by doing that. The rules are in place for a reason. It sucks to send them back, and it doesn’t feel fair, but keeping them is the same thing as international kidnapping.
The family who didn’t return their child had federal agents and Ukrainian diplomats banging on their door. They had to go to court. The child had to be forcefully removed from their home. He was just a little boy. Talk about traumatizing.
Now the family can never adopt him or host again. Many orphanages refused to work with the hosting groups again. Ukraine’s government was angry and threatened to stop all adoptions for the entire country along with hosting. There was no winter hosting for our organization after the family kept their child this summer, so tons of children missed out on a chance to spend Christmas with a family.
Trust between Ukraine and American host families was broken. (Remember how Russia halted all adoptions forever after a child was sent back alone on a plane a few years ago?? It’s a fine line we’re all walking.)
They all calmed down, finally, and made the visa rule stating that no child could be hosted more than three times to prevent families from falling in love and thinking they can keep the child without officially going through the adoption process.
It’s hard not to have anger towards the one selfish family who caused all of these issues.