Last summer there was a picture of one boy on the photo listing for www.heartforhosting.org, which is the group Igor was hosted through the first two times.
This boy’s picture really stood out to me. But we had just re-discovered Igor listed with the other agency, and we had committed to hosting him and seeing how everything played out.
We all know how Igor’s story is going. It’s heartbreaking. We love him so much. My heart wants to keep him forever, host him over and over, do everything I can for him.
My kids cried when I mentioned possibly hosting him again this winter. As much as I love Igor, can I really force my kids to go through that again? He pushed Ada in front of oncoming traffic while laughing, impulsively. I think Rosie is traumatized from seeing that happen. Rosie told me hosting Igor again is her worst nightmare.
Tyler has been hung up on Igor for so long. He has said he doesn’t want to host any more kids with the exception of Igor, and even he is torn on rehosting.
The brain and the heart do battle. We know it’s not a good idea. We love him and want to help him.
I thought we could do foster care. No more Ukrainian craziness. But…
Then I saw the host kid photo listing for this winter.
My little boy, the one that caught my eye on list for this past summer? There he was, the very first picture on the winter listing.
My heart jumped. Despite everything, despite my own plans, despite my mixed feelings on Igor, despite all of it. There was this one boy. Again!
I messaged the family that hosted him this past summer. They adored him, they just aren’t wanting to adopt right now.
They’re a Ukrainian family living in California. They also hosted a chaperone last summer, and that chaperone happened to be the director of this boy’s orphanage. They told me that the director is a wonderful woman who dearly loves the kids and does everything she can to get them adopted and take good care of them.
How different from Igor’s director! An entirely different situation!
I held my breath, said a prayer, and went to bed. The next afternoon I asked Tyler what he thought about this boy.
I fully expected him to say no way, no how.
Instead he told me that he would be interested in hosting the boy this coming summer, but not this winter.
Well that was one step closer than I expected.
He said he had a hard summer, as did we all, and he just wanted to recover.
I told him I thought the opposite. We had a hard summer, and I just want to try again and hopefully overwrite the badness.
He was quiet. I’ve learned when he’s quiet I shouldn’t push it. I just need to wait, and bring it up offhandedly…He’s slow to process my crazy ideas and rushing him makes him confused and grumpy. ;)
I dropped a few more bits of info about this boy over the course of the past few days.
He’s available for adoption right now. He’s on the adoption registry. No waiting, other than for paperwork on our end to be done. And fundraising of course.
This caught Tyler’s interest. No long hopeless struggle like with Igor? A director that WANTS him to be adopted?
The host family from this past summer said he is the sweetest little boy. He likes to eat. He likes to sleep. He’s neat and tidy.
Best of all, he loves superheros! Tyler also loves superheros. So does Ada. Henry too.
The girls are very excited about the idea of another little boy. Misha, the little boy we hosted last summer, was six and fit awesomely into our family dynamic. Misha wasn’t available for adoption.
This boy isn’t a replacement for Igor. He’s simply an addition. I don’t think we can host Igor again. I won’t ever stop loving him, or talking to him, or trying to help him, but he needs a family without small children.
That brings us to this point.
He’s six years old. He wears size 3t-4t clothing.
Over the last summer he blossomed into a happy little boy! This is a picture from his first host family.
Maybe this is finally our kid? Maybe?
Of course the biggest hurdle is finances. I hate fundraising. I feel so guilty, and everyone has already been so generous to us the past many times we’ve hosted. The money only goes to pay for the plane tickets, chaperone, emergency health insurance, visa, and other paperwork fees. It’s a non-profit organization. I wish airlines would donate tickets for orphan hosting. Wouldn’t that be amazing?
The money for winter hosting is due quickly. Deposit on November 1st and the full amount shortly after. I think it’s $2,900 this winter. That’s about $700 less than it was to host Igor this summer.
Another awesome thing? For the first time EVER the kids will be flying into an Ohio airport!! I’m stoked. In the past we have had to travel to Atlanta, Chicago, and Indianapolis. The coordinator for this region lives just north of Cincinnati and the airport will be within three hours of her, somewhere in Ohio. Either the Cincinnati/NKY airport, Dayton, or Columbus most likely.
I’m still waiting for the official YES from Tyler on Max. The kids and I are very excited to meet this little guy. Fingers crossed!