Things are not going well with Tanya. She’s probably going to have to return to Ukraine early with a chaperone.
Very sad.
She’s just too much for us to handle. She seems to have all of the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder, including showing no remorse when repeatedly hurting our pets, no impulse control, and being uncomfortably too affectionate with everyone in the world.
Did I mention how sad we are that it’s working out this way?
Yeah. Very, very sad. We were really looking forward to having a great time, but we’re struggling just to get through each day with everyone safe and all in one piece. She is unable to play with my kids.
I am so worried about what will happen to her back in Ukraine. She is very vulnerable. I wish she could find a family here to adopt her and give her the therapy she needs to be a happy, successful human being. She deserves that chance. She didn’t ask to be neglected or sent to an orphanage. It’s not her fault she’s broken inside. :(
Poor little girl.
So sorry it’s not working out.
so sorry this is turning out this way after everything you went through to get her here. what an emotional rollercoaster. :(
But on the bright side I am determined to find her a family! She has a ton of potential, we just weren’t prepared to deal with her needs. If she hadn’t have come she would be lost forever in the mental institution or certainly end up taken advantage of once she aged out of the regular orphanage. She will go with any man who smiles at her, she is so vulnerable it’s heartbreaking. We will host another kid next time, hopefully that will be more of a fun experience! We don’t regret hosting Tanya at all, it’s just harder and different than expected. I’m trusting that this has all happened for a (good) reason. I just hope we get to find out what that reason is!
I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately. I’m sorry to hear that things aren’t working out. I hope someone with a heart as big as yours will come through and adopt Tanya!
hi! i was looking for blogs about families that hosted kids through organizations like ccc or new horizons, so im glad i came across yours. i was thinking of hosting this summer, because i have read success stories about families that hosted and adopted the kid shortly after. but i’ve also heard stories about families that said “watch out, all those kids are RAD” and im sorry to hear your experience with hosting was so horrible first time around. i am afraid to dive into hosting/give it a try because of the high chances of the kids having developed RAD, and the scary behavior that might come along, as you mentioned being violent towards pets or younger kids, it’s like living with a nightmare trying to get through each day. if you know any more blogs or people that hosted that had similar or different experiences than you, if you get a chance could you email me them? i want to get a clear idea of how common successful/unsuccessful hosting experiences are.
thank you so much!