After praying about it a lot recently I randomly woke up this morning and felt like now is not the right time to move. This is crazy, but for some reason I feel completely peaceful about staying in this house for now. You know how badly I wanted out of here.
It seems like every house we would want to buy is about $30,000 out of our price range. If we wait another year we will probably be able to afford to move some place we *really* like.
I have some plans to make this house more livable in the mean time.
The new litter robot litter box we got has made a tremendous difference. IT HAS NO SMELL! I mean if you stick your face down next to it you can tell it’s a litter box, but our house doesn’t smell like cats every time you walk in it now. We have four cats and the two male cats never covered their poop. No matter which litter we used or how many times we scooped it they just stank. Badly. Litter Robot scoops the poop for us and stores it away in a drawer below. Then you just take out the bag when it’s full, tie it up, and toss it. Super easy and not gross.
We’ve had it for about a week so far and all of my cats have now gotten the hang of using it except for Gus, my orange kitty. He is having some issues. I hope he gives in and starts using it soon because I cannot go back to a regular litter box now. That litter robot was expensive, but worth it. We bought it with a credit card and will pay it off with our tax return in January. Worth it, worth it, worth it. Even though I hate credit card debt and it gives me anxiety.
Since we probably aren’t moving right this second I think we may be able to host another Ukrainian orphan. Winter hosting is coming up. The tentative dates are Dec. 21st to Jan. 13th. I’m really excited and nervous!
We’ll find out in the next few weeks if Karina, the original girl we wanted to host, had her paperwork error fixed so she can come.
I’m going to do fundraising again because there’s no way we’ll have the $2,700. Even with Tyler’s better income–we have a credit card to pay off, and we’ll be basically able to afford to live better. Not really save up money, especially not $2,700 in a short amount of time. I wish we could use our tax return to pay for it, but we won’t get that until 2013 and I’m sure the money for hosting will be due at the end of November. I feel awkward fundraising again so soon, but I don’t know…maybe another miracle will occur if it’s meant to happen. We’re still interested in adoption too, one day. It’s daunting to think of scraping together $2,700. I honestly have no clue where that will come from.
I keep thinking of how we ended up with Tanya, and how she found her family. How could we just not try this again? How could we just say no to that quiet urging? Not us, not this time. No thank you, no orphans for me.
Even though hosting Tanya was very stressful it ended perfectly. It was completely worth it, it saved Tanya’s life! I know most families had an easier, more fun experience than we did with hosting. I don’t think it would be so stressful the next time, and if for some reason it is then well…we survived it once before…
Or there’s always the possibility that it won’t work out for us to host at Christmas. We won’t be able to get the money. Then I guess I would have to trust it’s not meant to be right now. But I would still be open to doing it, because as I have learned through Tanya you just never know how things will work out when you stop trying to control everything and just wait with an open heart.
I cannot stop thinking about these Ukrainian kids. I have no idea why. Tyler and I are broken now. Once you become involved in this stuff there’s no turning back. You start thinking about these kids and tearing up–even Tyler! Once you see their faces at the airport, hear their backgrounds, hold their hands…they are real. More than just photos on a photo listing. Real kids with emotions, waiting for someone to love them, desperately needing guidance and consistency to heal from being institutionalized and in some cases neglected and abused.
Heart is sufficiently broken into a million pieces. Send help.
90% of the 61 kids who came this summer found adoptive families. Isn’t that amazing? Not only do they get love and attention, they also get hope for a future that they would not typically have in Ukraine. In Ukraine when they leave the orphanage at 15-17 years old (depending on region) their futures often end in suicide, organized crime, or prostitution. Almost none of them go to college, they don’t know what it means to have healthy relationships or how to be a part of a family. There is just so little hope for them to become happy, successful adults. Then they have babies, and they can’t care for them properly, and the cycle of orphans perpetually flows on.
Yes, you really have to step out of your comfort zone to host an orphan in your home. But it is SO TOTALLY WORTH IT. For the kid and for your family, both.
Speaking of orphans, an update on Tanya:
Tanya is back in Ukraine and she started public school there recently. Her second host family loves her to pieces and really wants to adopt her. They recently found out the info given to the hosting non-profit group was wrong and she isn’t available for adoption until next year. Crushing! I think they still want to adopt her, but the wait is horrible!
In Ukraine children have to be available for domestic adoption (by Ukrainians only) for one full year before they can be adopted internationally. If we wanted to adopt Karina she wouldn’t be available until next fall, or one year from whenever they fix her paperwork. It’s frustrating and I have no idea why it works that way. Ukrainians don’t adopt very often as far as I can tell, especially not older kids. Ukraine doesn’t even allow international adoption of healthy kids under the age of 5 unless they are part of an older sibling group.
If anyone else is interested in winter hosting here’s the website! (I think it requires flash, if you’re on a phone it might not work.)
And this video! Watch it! It’s about hosting, with pictures of some of the kids from this summer.